Tuesday Aug 05, 2025

58. Invisible Work, Part 3: Finding Support, Balance and a Voice

In today’s episode, I continue our conversation about the silent second job nearly 73% of us are doing: caregiving. Balancing paid work and unpaid care for family members, pets, or children — especially as working moms — is real, relentless, and often invisible. I lay out why self-care isn’t luxury—it’s essential. Drawing on my 15 years as a working mom and 20 years aiding families in senior living, I share how overlooking self-care isn’t just cliché; it can lead to burnout, physical decline, and reduced work performance. Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re fences that protect our well-being and sustain our ability to care for others.

Throughout the episode, I illustrate how asking for help is one of the most powerful self-care moves we can make. I share data showing that 59% of employees don’t seek support due to fear of appearing weak, and that caregiver-employees face higher rates of depression (87%) and turnover. I compare this to experiences I’ve seen in senior living—like caregivers declining faster than those they care for—highlighting that neglecting our own needs doesn’t serve anyone. It’s not about perfection; it’s about protection and sustainability.

I close with encouragement to build micro-rituals—whether five quiet minutes in the car, a dinner with friends, or extending a trip for solitude—and to embrace asking for help as a power move.

Starting today, I urge listeners to consider: What is one thing you can do for your own peace? Setting that boundary, advocating for yourself, and accepting support isn’t selfish—it’s smart. Because when we care for ourselves, we show up stronger—for our families, our careers, and most importantly, for ourselves.

00:00 Introduction to Employee Caregivers

00:44 Welcome to Working Mom Moments

01:36 The Silent Job of Caregiving

03:34 The Sandwich Generation

05:04 The Importance of Asking for Help

07:13 The Impact of Caregiving on Health

09:17 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care

14:33 Empowerment Through Self-Advocacy

16:56 Conclusion and Next Steps

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